On March 26, 2009, I left my life in America and moved to South Korea. I put my worldly possessions into two suitcases and a backpack and got on a plane. On December 8, 2012, I returned not to my hometown of Detroit, but to Silicon Valley, California, where I married an Indian engineer. In 2020, I divorced and moved to southern California. In this blog are my successes, failures, and observations of life in different cultures.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
The Subway is Great for Studying
Now that I moved all the way across the city, I have to take the subway for about an hour and a half, then transfer to a bus for a total trip of about 2 hours to tutor my one student. I believe I introduced him before.... Just in case, I'll explain again/for the first time. That day that I was so miserable I decided to go to a bar alone for some drinking, I made friends with the manager of that bar. She then called two of her friends to come join us. One of those friends is an English teacher for little kids. That friend, 선화 언니 (Big Sister Sunhwa) got me a job tutoring her friend's son. The boy's name is 지호 (Jiho) and he's in 5th grade. Later this summer, he and his mother will go to Canada for 8 weeks, so his mother wants him to learn some English really quickly and get used to speaking and listening. So, I get paid about $30 US dollars per hour to talk to him in English and get him used to culture. I go there every Tuesday and Thursday from 5pm to 6:30pm. 지호 (Jiho) was extremely shy at first, but now is eager to show me things and tries hard to make me understand. Sometimes he uses Korean and I can understand a little, but I told him to assume that I can't speak any Korean at all. He showed me some of his schoolwork, and the math and drawing are especially impressive. I think he can do both better than I can! He loves soccer and he likes baseball, too. His favorite books are Le Petit Prince, Charlotte's Web, and a short series of Korean books. Of course, he reads translated versions of the former two in Korean. His English is extremely limited. But, he's a very fast learner and a good speller.
Last night (Tuesday night) I kept my promise to visit my bar manager friend, 마찌마찌 이모 (Mazzi Mazzi (bar name) maternal aunt) on a weekly basis. After tutoring I went to 까치산 (Ggachisan) and walked around the familiar streets, which was amusingly surreal. Then I played piano at the church for an hour, waiting for the bar to open at 9. I went to the bar, but a part-timer said my friend would be in around 10:10 (oddly specific) so I went to 까치산역 (Ggachisan station) and read/studied until I fell asleep (subway/subway station sleep is like a light half-sleep state, more like recharging than sleeping).
A side note here: I bought a book that fits roughly in the religious philosophy genre a while ago. It was originally written by a Korean pastor in an attempt to combine Christianity, Buddhism, and Taoism into his thought processes, but my copy is a translated text in French. Needless to say, it is not an easy topic to read in a second language. French isn't really necessary for me to study, so it's kind of a fun thing for me to kill time on the subway or while waiting for people to read it, underlining words I don't know and jotting down notes like "false cognate?" or writing smiley faces next to phrases I particularly like. I'm almost halfway done with it now.
Anyway, around 10, who should call but my best friend 은영 (Jenny)!! We made plans for this afternoon. I figured I'd stay at the bar until closing (4am) then study in the station until the first train home (5:30am), then sleep a little bit, then get ready and go talk to a teacher at a Korean Language Institute in 분당 (Bundang) at 10am, then get on the subway immediately to meet her on the other side of the city at 12pm, then leave at 5pm to meet my friend 래욱 (Raewook, English name Eddie) back on the east side for dinner at 6pm, then return home and sleep. Take into account I got 3 hours of sleep the night before.
After hanging up the phone, I headed to the bar and, as usual, got a couple of beers and some food and had a nice chat. After a while 미주 (Miju) came to join me, which was great because we don't see each other much anymore. She says my Korean is getting better :) Unfortunately 주환 (Joohwan) and my old landlord couldn't come, but I'll go there every week so there will be many chances to see them. 미주 (Miju) invited me to come back to her room and sleep a little before getting on the subway because she didn't want me to be alone from 4am to 5:30am, which was a very good idea. So we went there, again surreal because I lived there less than a week ago and now I was a guest, and I got up for the early train. I got home around 7:30am and decided to sleep from 7:45 to 8:00. I woke up at 12:30 to a text message from 은영 (Jenny) asking where I was. Awesome.
Anyway I finally ACTUALLY woke up around 4pm, took a shower, and read the email from 서 선생님 (Mr. Seo) who teaches at a 한국어 학원 (Korean acadamy) next to 서현역 (Seohyeon station), which is where I live now. That was a lot of Korean in one sentence for you guys, wasn't it? Haha. He gave me directions to the place, so I memorized them because they were very simple. He said to go out from 서현역 3번 출구 (Seohyeon station exit gate number 3) and take the left overpass to the SH Sienne building, and 굿모닝 어학원 (Good Morning Academy) would be on the second floor. I entered the station and looked EVERYWHERE for an exit 3. I couldn't find it, and I was running out of time because I had to meet my friend for dinner. So I asked a guy standing by a door in a suit with an earpiece (these people are there just to answer questions, basically), "SH Sienne Building 이 어디에 있어요? 알아요?" ("Where is the SH Sienne Building? Do you know?") He was very confused at the name and said something like, "Is that a store in AK Plaza?" (AK Plaza is the giant mall attached to the station, which is technically where he works). I responded, "AK Plaza 에 없어요." ("It's not in AK Plaza.") and I pointed outside. Then he asked me to repeat the name, so I wrote it down, at which point he pulled a small map out of his pocket, looked at it for a while, and called for help. I heard the word "외국인" which means foreigner, a word I hear almost every day. After all that, we had been practically staring at the building the entire time. I think sometimes I can be so smart and so stupid at the same time. So, I thanked him and walked the one or two minutes across the street to the SH Sienne building.
Apparently I'm at a low intermediate level of Korean according to this particular academy's standards. Their classes consist of 3-8 people, and the one that would work best for me is a little advanced for me, but the other classes would be too easy. I'm a very fast learner. As I told Mr. Seo, I was that kid in French, Japanese, and Korean class who never studied and got the highest score. He seemed very excited by that. He was also very impressed with my Korean skill, as I had told him that I'd studied for one semeseter at MSU and the rest was from teaching myself by talking to friends. The class is Tuesday through Thursday. I told him I will decide and get back to him by Monday. It's appealing, but I was talking to one of my friends on MSN tonight and explained, in Korean, about my day and the academy. He corrected my sentences as usual and said, "very good^^... absolutely you are good... you don't need to go there." I've been talking to him since before I came to Korea, so he's been watching me improve. If he thinks I don't need to go there, maybe I don't need to go there. I'll have to get the opinions of my other Korean friends and think it over.
For dinner, I met 래욱 (Eddie), who is extremely chivalrous and kind, funny, and completely average-looking. We got sushi and udon at a Japanese restaurant in 신천 (Shincheon) and then walked to a park in 잠실 (Jamsil). There, in the middle of a lake, is a cute amusement park called Lotteworld (I think that's the name). Lotte is a large corporation in Korea, I believe. There are Lotte stores, Lotte products (like the "FLAVONO" gum I just bought), Lotte this, Lotte that... it's everywhere like Samsung is. We didn't go to the amusement park, just walked around and sat on a bench. While on the bench, I got a text from 은영 (Jenny) asking if I was available to meet, so we started texting back and forth formulating a plan. At the same time, another started texting me. In Korea, people just have conversations via text all the time. On the subway, at dinner, while hanging out with friends, walking down the street, in class, lying in bed, whatever. I'm starting to become Korean in that way, but my texting stealth is not exactly up-to-par and multitasking stressed me out a little. So, here I was having 3 conversations at the same time, and believe me Koreans can text very quickly so it's really a conversation. I was talking to 래욱 (Eddie) in person about how ridiculous texting in Korea is and how it's tough for me to keep up, while at the same time making plans with rapid-fire texts to 은영 (Jenny) and talking about my day via text with my other friend. 래욱 (Eddie) was extremely amused by how flustered I was becoming when we started walking to the subway station while I was still texting both people, and said he's going to text me at random times and immediately follow each text with "you're so slow" or "hurry up" or "what the hell" or "bite me" just for fun. My friends are great~!
So FINALLY I got to see 은영 (Jenny) after 6 weeks. Last time I saw her was in our apartment in Michigan. It seems like a million years ago and a million miles away already. We didn't have much time to see each other because it was pretty late, but we went to a sticker photo booth and took cute pictures together. My set is in my wallet now. We're going to see each other tomorrow evening, too, and Friday night, probably with some other friends.
Random culture note: "oppa" means big brother - in Korea, people who are close, no matter what the relationship, are called by the corresponding family member. So, I should call my younger friends who I'm close to 동생 "dongseng" - younger sibling, older female friends 언니 "eonni" - older sister, etc.. 오빠 "oppa" is kind of a term of endearment for girls to call older guys, often their boyfriends, and guys LOVE it).
Another random culture note: Private movie rooms are very common date places in Korea because the definition of PDA (public displays of affection) is much more conservative and couples usually don't go to each others' homes because they generally live with their parents until they get married (women) or get a job (men). So, going to a DVD방 (DVD room) is cheaper than a movie theater and gives couples the opportunity to cuddle up and watch a movie together, which is a rare opportunity in Korean culture. Women can also go there with other women. If men go together, people think they are gay, which is a big no-no in Korea.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Getting Busier and Busier
No wonder you all have been badgering me to post something new. It's been a really long time. But it feels like only a few days. Time flies!!! Now let me think... what have I even been doing???
I registered for an online psychology course through Michigan State University and ordered the textbook, and I've been working on scheduling fall and spring classes, too. It's difficult because the online options are, of course, significantly fewer than the on campus options. And, my major is unusual (Global and Area Studies with an Asian Studies Concentration and a Psychology cognate).
I met some more new friends who I will describe later (I'm very tired now). 주환 (Joohwan) says my Korean has improved a lot. He was really, really surprised.
I went all over Seoul with 영하 (Youngha), including an ancient palace, a few famous malls, and some other landmark or interesting places. We also went on the first trial ride of the new subway line, line 9, which will start runnung at the end of this month. I was the only foreigner there. That means that I'm the first foreigner ever to ride Seoul's subway line 9. Yeah I'm special~
I got a tutoring student. He's a 5th grade boy who's going to Canada in a couple of moths with his mother for 8 weeks. Remember I made friends with a bar manager? This student is her friend's friend's son. It helps to make connections!
A couple of days ago, I moved to 분당, which is just south of Seoul. My scenery has changed drastically. I live just outside 서현역 (Seohyun station), which is attatched to AK Plaza, a giant department store mall thing. There's Prada, Gucci, Louis Vuitton, etc. as you walk out of the subway, and around my new home (on the 4th floor of its building) there are many stores, clubs, restaurants, bars, coffee shops, you name it. During the day people shop here, and at night they party here. 서현 (Seohyun) never sleeps. My new 고시원 (goshiweon) is co-ed and most of the residents are students, I think. At the old one, it was women-only and half the residents were students and half were middle-aged women. Today, I was sleeping in for the first time in a few days, and at about 11am there was a knock on my door. A guy who works here (I'm getting really used to his face) handed me his phone. It was the owner of the 고시원 (goshiweon) telling me in pretty good English (he said he studied in Georgia a while back) that he's really excited to have me living here because I'm the first foreigner to ever live here, and if I ever need anything to call him because the workers can't speak English.
New place pros and cons:
Pro- my room is bigger and cleaner
Con- the window in my room opens to a hallway, not the outside like the old one did
Pro- no more noise from traffic
Con- I can hear karaoke at all hours of the morning (actually quite amusing)
Pro- the kitchen is much nicer
Con- the bathroom is worse
Pro- I live closer to maybe half of my friends
Con- I live further away from my student (it's a 2-hour commute now) and 미주 (Miju) and 주환 (Joohwan)
Pro- I love the atmosphere here
Con- it's more expensive (340,000won per month as opposed to 250,000won per month)
Pro- I have shelves and drawers and a mirror in my room now!!!
Con- there's no fan or air conditioner in my room (central cooling in the whole building)
Pro- there is a Krispy Kreme really close
Con- I don't know where the nearest grocery store is yet
Pro- my refrigerator is larger and has a freezer and doesn't have a funny smell
Con- if I can't find the grocery store, the fridge is useless (I couldn't think of a corresponding con)
Pro- my bed is longer and has an adorable headboard
Con- I was nice and left the pillow and blanket from my landlord in the old place so I have no pillow (my thin blanket is warm enough because my room is warm)... I've been sleeping on Softie, leaving me nothing to cuddle!!
Pro- there's great food on the street for cheap
Con- I miss rice cake man and all the free rice cakes he gave me
Okay this is getting ridiculous, enough with the pros and cons!
Now for some awesome news: 은영 (Jenny), my best friend and roommate in America, got back home to Korea today for a while before she goes to study in Japan for the summer! AND, she lives closer to my new place than to my old place! Yayyyy!!!! I might get to see her tomorrow night!!!
And now, it is 4:30am. I must sleep. Seriously.
I registered for an online psychology course through Michigan State University and ordered the textbook, and I've been working on scheduling fall and spring classes, too. It's difficult because the online options are, of course, significantly fewer than the on campus options. And, my major is unusual (Global and Area Studies with an Asian Studies Concentration and a Psychology cognate).
I met some more new friends who I will describe later (I'm very tired now). 주환 (Joohwan) says my Korean has improved a lot. He was really, really surprised.
I went all over Seoul with 영하 (Youngha), including an ancient palace, a few famous malls, and some other landmark or interesting places. We also went on the first trial ride of the new subway line, line 9, which will start runnung at the end of this month. I was the only foreigner there. That means that I'm the first foreigner ever to ride Seoul's subway line 9. Yeah I'm special~
I got a tutoring student. He's a 5th grade boy who's going to Canada in a couple of moths with his mother for 8 weeks. Remember I made friends with a bar manager? This student is her friend's friend's son. It helps to make connections!
A couple of days ago, I moved to 분당, which is just south of Seoul. My scenery has changed drastically. I live just outside 서현역 (Seohyun station), which is attatched to AK Plaza, a giant department store mall thing. There's Prada, Gucci, Louis Vuitton, etc. as you walk out of the subway, and around my new home (on the 4th floor of its building) there are many stores, clubs, restaurants, bars, coffee shops, you name it. During the day people shop here, and at night they party here. 서현 (Seohyun) never sleeps. My new 고시원 (goshiweon) is co-ed and most of the residents are students, I think. At the old one, it was women-only and half the residents were students and half were middle-aged women. Today, I was sleeping in for the first time in a few days, and at about 11am there was a knock on my door. A guy who works here (I'm getting really used to his face) handed me his phone. It was the owner of the 고시원 (goshiweon) telling me in pretty good English (he said he studied in Georgia a while back) that he's really excited to have me living here because I'm the first foreigner to ever live here, and if I ever need anything to call him because the workers can't speak English.
New place pros and cons:
Pro- my room is bigger and cleaner
Con- the window in my room opens to a hallway, not the outside like the old one did
Pro- no more noise from traffic
Con- I can hear karaoke at all hours of the morning (actually quite amusing)
Pro- the kitchen is much nicer
Con- the bathroom is worse
Pro- I live closer to maybe half of my friends
Con- I live further away from my student (it's a 2-hour commute now) and 미주 (Miju) and 주환 (Joohwan)
Pro- I love the atmosphere here
Con- it's more expensive (340,000won per month as opposed to 250,000won per month)
Pro- I have shelves and drawers and a mirror in my room now!!!
Con- there's no fan or air conditioner in my room (central cooling in the whole building)
Pro- there is a Krispy Kreme really close
Con- I don't know where the nearest grocery store is yet
Pro- my refrigerator is larger and has a freezer and doesn't have a funny smell
Con- if I can't find the grocery store, the fridge is useless (I couldn't think of a corresponding con)
Pro- my bed is longer and has an adorable headboard
Con- I was nice and left the pillow and blanket from my landlord in the old place so I have no pillow (my thin blanket is warm enough because my room is warm)... I've been sleeping on Softie, leaving me nothing to cuddle!!
Pro- there's great food on the street for cheap
Con- I miss rice cake man and all the free rice cakes he gave me
Okay this is getting ridiculous, enough with the pros and cons!
Now for some awesome news: 은영 (Jenny), my best friend and roommate in America, got back home to Korea today for a while before she goes to study in Japan for the summer! AND, she lives closer to my new place than to my old place! Yayyyy!!!! I might get to see her tomorrow night!!!
And now, it is 4:30am. I must sleep. Seriously.
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